The conflicts that cut deepest are often the ones we understand the least. In general, the deeper the hurt, the more there is to understand and process. These kinds of hurts may initially be disproportionate to the action, but that’s because of the depth of hurt that is brought to the surface. It’s important to strive toward self understanding and knowing the source and nature of the hurt before bringing it to the other person. Having a grip on the core of the issue can help you produce more…