Self-forgiveness can be difficult, you say to yourself "how could I have been so gullible/trusting?" I do forgive the perpetrator but don't forget why they aren't invited into my life anymore. The self-forgiveness is not easy tho'.
You can not have a healthy relationship with people who are wearing a mask……Be real, Be genuine, Be that unique person you are. All the people we really care about you, will love you for who you truly are.