I will always remember...if you have broken me in the past, I forgive you....I do NOT, under any circumstance, forget. I need to keep my walls up around you. I need to at least try, to keep myself from being abused again.
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Oh my word. So true. The tragedy is that so many people who are abused don't even realize it. Predators can be absolutely brilliant at grooming their victims, making their victims think what they're going through is normal. Sometimes it's blaming the victim. Sometimes it's disguising abuse as some form of medicinal or other routine. Sometimes it's parentifying children so they feel responsible for their perpetrator's feelings. Sometimes it's gaslighting so the victim is confused about their
These skilled manipulators have an arsenal of tactics...They can inflict so much psychological warfare and make you suppress so much emotion that you can be backed into an emotional corner. When this happens, the intense frustration you feel, but are not allowed to express through normal communication, will cause you to blow up in a reaction of self-defense. Emotional reactions in self-defense to an abusive situation do not make you an abuser.