Is it important to you? This is your life, do what's right for you. Stop letting other people dictate your decisions or bring you down. We've only got one life to live, work hard for what you want and make the most of this life.
I want her to be herself but it's important to me as a mother to raise her with Faith, Morals, dignity, Integrity, and Discernment. She is in control of her Character, but if you plant the seed, it will grow.